Everybody’s got a past — especially when it comes to relationships. And dating someone who’s had a history? Totally normal. But what’s not normal? Dating someone who still seems emotionally stuck in their last relationship.
So how do you know if they’re really not over their ex? Here are some signs that might make you pause... or hit the brakes:
🚩 Red Flags That Say “Still Not Over It”:
- They’re still angry. They bring up their ex, and it’s never chill — just bitter, mad, or petty.
- Everything reminds them of their ex. A song. A food. A dog. A tree. It’s like you’re dating a walking memory album.
- They keep tabs on their ex’s life. “Oh, she got promoted? He’s dating someone new?” If they know all the updates, they might not be over it.
- They’re still tight with the ex’s family. If they’re closer to the ex’s mom than yours? That’s a problem.
- They’re glued to the ex’s socials. Constant likes. Deep scrolls. Accidental “likes” at 2am. You see it.
- They compare you to them. Even if it’s subtle — “My ex used to love that too.” Yikes.
- They bring up the past... a lot. Every convo somehow drifts into memory lane.
- They’re weird about commitment. Emotionally unavailable? Always dodging the “what are we” talk? That might not be random.
- The ex’s name pops up… randomly. Like, “We weren’t even talking about that — why are they in this story?”
- They still talk to them — and don’t tell you. Hanging out “as friends” without even mentioning it? That’s a trust issue waiting to happen.
If you’re noticing these signs in someone you’re dating, it might be time for a real convo. Because if they’re still stuck on the past… it’s hard to build a future.
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